Anyone can accomplish the love of something external. Friends, family, lovers, partners, pets, God, places, careers, homes, plants, hobbies and things outside of ourselves are easy to love. But when these things are stripped away, as many of us are experiencing during the ascension process, we get to take a look at the ultimate lesson of the Shift – the love of Self.
That may sound contradictory to much of the New Earth talk of service to others, unity consciousness or I AM presence. Service to Self and love of Self are two completely different things. We’re not talking about caring for yourself while disregarding the rest of this matrix.
This final goal of unity, making choices for the highest good of all concerned, cannot be attained by the external actions of a population that does not adore its own company. Let me explain.
In the vibration game of ascension, the external world is affected by a rise in frequency on the planet and in the consciousness of individuals. Collectively, we have done quite well in moving the Shift along at a pretty good pace. As the Earth’s frequency increases – dramatically in the next 10 months – adjustments within the body, mind, emotions and egoic levels are made to match that vibration. The demands of this new light (frequency) wreak havoc on the lifestreams of the awakened. Not only does it remove anything which does not fit any longer, but it reveals deep, dark places where the same questions are proposed: When are you going to love yourself? Why don’t you love yourself? Why am I not present with my own self?
Unconditional within, unconditional without
The lesson of unconditional love must be learned within before anything authentic and effective can manifest permanent change in our reality. The lifting of the veils, the no separation we have all been talking about, reveals the truth of everything. Transparency will never be achieved in the external world until we are able to be transparent ourselves. When you’re relying on external actions (look how loving I am acts of service) or people (they love me) to prove that you are embodying love, you have more work to do.
Relying on external outlets for our love has brought about all kinds of deep issues in the HUman experience. Giving away love and receiving love as verification for our worthiness became survival mechanisms. Devotion to the external became habitual and fear-based. Self-hatred led us to choices based on safety because we were not okay with ourselves. The world is what it is today because we are not functioning from a state of love. We are trained to believe we are not enough. Our media, entertainment and marketing feeds on that disharmony. Now that we have awakened, we must take responsibility for all of the false constructs and agreements we have made in the past, and change them.
How do you identify Self-hatred?
Hatred may appear to be a term that should be reserved for darkness. Get over it. It applies to 99% of the population in one form or another. Stand in front of the mirror naked. Or put yourself in a room full of people you dislike for a day. Both might reveal a subconscious flicker or two of “I don’t like (fill in the blank: body part? attitude? behavior? any “shoulds” popping up? “Those people”?) Whether it’s in the mirror or reflected in the mirror of the outside world, your reality – which you are creating – might be riddled with examples of self-hatred.
C’mon, I don’t hate people or myself
Impossible, right? You don’t hate anything, you’re ascending and full of light and love. Yes, you are. You are also an incarnate being with amnesia experiencing a dimensional Shift. There are ongoing lessons to be learned until we embody our Higher Self. That isn’t going to happen until the lower expression and the higher expression match vibration, or at least come very close. There’s an opportunity to achieve that, and there’s an opportunity to create the change we would like on this planet. But unconditional love means no conditions, and peace cannot be created by beings relying on external stimuli for love. Let’s not be hypocrites, we’ve explored that enough. Saying and doing one thing, while we hide another doesn’t create change. It creates disharmony and deceit. Exposure and disclosure are on everyone”s wish list, which means exposure and disclosure are imminent for each one of us during this Shift.
External sources of love, be gone
Let’s use our imaginations and take away everything external which provides security, safety and love (if this hasn’t actually happened to you yet.) Imagine your reality, right now. Now take away the external sources of value, love and success: the job, money, home, lover, partner, friends, belongings, guides, strip it all away. Get fired, lose the mortgage, get dumped, empty the bank account, get alienated from friends, family, everything.
Not for a day or two; give yourself a real challenge, Masters.
Imagine 3 months. 6 months. A year. Make it feel like those things are never coming back. However long it takes to feel uncomfortable, lonely, abandoned, lost, angry, whatever it takes. Take yourself away from all of the external sources of empowerment.
Close your eyes and do this right now, the big “what if I lost it all.”
You might be feeling a little uncomfortable. Dig through the initial layers of self-coaching (“something will happen to fix this”) and see what lurks below.
Let’s take a look
It’s scary, isn’t it? Your focus goes straight to survival, to fixing the problem and trying to make life the way it was before. The mental, emotional and egoic bodies start to freak out. They’ve been anchored in survival mode and think the outside world is where the Self should get verification. Loss of external security can make us feel vulnerable and exposed.
Removing our external ties to identity exposes our bottom line: we don’t know how to be unconditional with ourselves. We need verification, approval, something to show us how good we are or that we have value. That lack of unconditional Self-love grows over the course of lifetimes, anchoring self-hatred in the subconscious.
Self-hatred is a toxic form of fear. It reveals itself in our lifestreams; sometimes it’s subtle and sometimes it kicks us in the teeth.
When challenged with external factors, Self-hatred can manifest as:
– Blaming the external world: relationships, family monad, friendships, coworkers, global elite, history
– Blaming the Self: choices, decisions made, personal ahaskic, past lives
– Self-destruction: worthiness issues, why bother trying, everything is lost, ego tripping on win/lose duality
– Harming the body vehicle: conscious or unconscious destructive or controlling habits, drinking, smoking, drugs, apathy, overeating, undereating, obsession with appearance, perfectionism
– Obvious mirror behavior: anger, rage, manipulation, deceit, conceit (ironic, isn’t it), controlling behaviors, preaching, duality
– Health issues: Too many to list. Subconscious disapproval breaks down DNA strand telomeres, cellular structures and the energetic flow of the body.
If you see some familiar behavior in that list, take a breath. Your ego is going to get uncomfortable with the idea that you don’t love yourself unconditionally. If you see behavior on the list that applies to others, dismiss the diversion. Don’t worry about other people’s journeys right now, leave that to the counselors. This is about you. Make a list of emotions/reactions you felt in the visualization, or are finding in your life right now, and take a look at them. Don’t judge them, get a grip on what is really going on.
If everything seems to be breaking apart right now, you are on track with the Shift. If it is extreme, even better dear Master. You created this because you know how important it is. You are responsible for your transformation back to Self-love. Accepting that the ego may have been lying to you about self-hatred is a great first step.
I’ll continue this series next week since it is so predominant in my sessions right now. Meanwhile, start examining why it’s possible you don’t love yourself unconditionally. This is the transformation we all must embrace if we’re to effectively create a harmonious world in the near future.
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